Another Cut on Masculine/Feminine
/Work in Progress, trying to ground the “Directive/Evocative”.
This is about relationshipping.
From the get go, this is going to be very different than most things.
One string vs chords.
From the Directive POV.
The first level is simple movement.
I can say the words to make exactly the thing happen that I want to happen.
“Raise your right hand two inches.”
“Kneel on the floor.”
Think of it as the your voice being the stimulus to their action.
Voice creates action, nothing else.
It’s the essence of meat puppet.
The second level is movement and ignition.
Not only does the movement happen, but a musical phrase is involved, on both sides.
A musical phrase can be anything in either’s experience that accompanies the action.
A musical phrase can be made up of chords.
Their human is online.
My voice is not simply, “The action to be taken.”
My voice is not simply information.
In the first, my voice is a finger pushing a response button.
In the second, my voice is a chord interacting in a chord-like way with their chords.
Body posture, body movement, tone of voice, modulation of voice, word choice, word placement, cadence, and many more things all play a part in the creation of the initiating musical phrase.
In the reception of the musical phrase, there is information content.
There are also ignitions.
They can be anywhere from resonances to rejections.
They can be anywhere from singular to cascading/nesting.
They can be anywhere from exploding to imploding.
In the third level, there is something akin to learning or dancing feedback loops, using the what-is-happening to fuel “movement into another place that cannot exist without the prior what-is-happening”.
Thus the feeding analogy.
I think that this is going to mess with a lot of things.
I think that it’s going to mess with an adolescent orientation around the simplicity of “making it happen”.
“I just want to break the board.”
“I just want them to kiss me.”
“I just want them to buy my product.”
“I just want them to be quiet.”
“I just want them to like me.”
“I just want to be fulfilled.”
“I just want them to hear/understand me.”
“I want to be successful.”
You can live your life in that kind of simple stimulus/response POV.
And it can be quite real.
I can remember wanting someone to kiss me.
I did not care what she was feeling, what she wanted, what she was expecting, etc.
I just wanted her to kiss me.
Like I said, people live complete lives from that place.
I eventually got to the place where it wasn’t just the kiss.
I wanted there to be a certain come-from, a certain flavor, a certain meaning-making with the kiss.
I wanted her to want to.
More than that, I wanted her to want to so intensely that she couldn’t help herself.
That is would actually be painful not to kiss me.
Was a great desire, a great fantasy, and I had not clue one about making that happen.
Will probably have to put three levels into each of these.
Merde.
For entrance into the second level, I think that there are a couple of things that you have to demonstrate owning, at some sort of minimum “not just an intellectual concept” embodying.
One, that in human relationshipping, there is no such thing as “only information”.
Two, that in human relationshipping, you are never simply doing either the directional or evocative thing. It’s always both. What the mix is, well, that is a thing.
It’s like there is never strictly a top or bottom POV.
You can’t top without having any bottom flavor to your experience.
You can’t bottom without having some top flavor to your experience.
At the second level, practicing the directional flavor, you know that what you are attempting to create over there is not only something moving in a particular direction. You are also attempting to create the flavor that accompanies that movement.
Recognizing that, you understand that you are not only supplying the informational content but the tonal content. You are putting your information out there in such a way as to light certain kinds of non-movement responses.